The Law of Unintended Consequences and The LOTR

The Law of Unintended Consequences and The LOTR

In everyday life, we are used to the idea of cause and effect. That means that when we try to do something, we expect an outcome similar to the effort we put in. However, sometimes our actions backfire and result in the exact opposite of what we intended.

This effect is called the Law of Unintended Consequences, which Wikipedia defines as follows:

In the social sciences, unintended consequences are outcomes of a purposeful action that are not intended or foreseen. Unintended consequences can be grouped into three types:

  • Unexpected benefit: A positive unexpected benefit (also referred to as luck, serendipity or a windfall).
  • Unexpected drawback: An unexpected detriment occurring in addition to the desired effect.
  • Perverse result: A perverse effect contrary to what was originally intended.

When can we expect an opposite outcome from our actions, and why does this happen?

Areas of Human Endeavour

Generally speaking, we can divide all human experiences into three areas:

  • Self: Internal (intrapersonal) experiences, for example: eating good food, intellectual stimulation and exercise.
  • Other: Interpersonal experiences that involve interaction with others, for example: making friends, being part of a community and participating in group activities.
  • Ideology: Idealogical experiences associated with a belief system, for example: environmentalism, philanthropy and religion.

These areas can overlap, for example:

  • Self + Other: Sharing a meal with others combines the personal experience of eating good food with the shared experience of socialising.
  • Self + Ideology: Studying a specific scientific field might inspire you to donate to a charity focused on that research area.
  • Other + Ideology: Engaging in a group environmental activity reinforces the benefit to the environment through collective action.

The more areas of experience involved in an activity, the higher the level of personal engagement. Full personal involvement is achieved when all three areas of experience come into play.

Society and Self

In addition to the Self, Other and Ideology experiences of the individual, societies also have a powerful and pervasive idea of how the Self, the Other and Ideology should be experienced.

  • Self: Societies shape the Self by encouraging certain traits, values, and behaviors.
  • Other: Societies promote certain types of relationships and interactions, so shaping the Other.
  • Ideology: Each society espouses specific belief systems or Ideologies that align with its core values and principles.

Together, these elements combine to create a unique societal system. The type of Self that a society nurtures, the nature of relationships (Other) it promotes, and the Ideology it espouses, all contribute to the shape and function of the societal system.

Societal Perpetuation

In order to guarantee the societal stability, society institutionalises these concepts of Self, Other and Ideology:

  • Legal Frameworks: Societies have laws that explicitly dictate acceptable behavior and ideologies. Laws can reject or penalize influences that contradict these legal norms. For example, societies that value individual freedom and self-expression (Self) might have laws that protect freedom of speech, thereby limiting the influence of ideologies that advocate for censorship.
  • Customs and Traditions: Customs and traditions (“the way we do things”) can promote certain behaviors and beliefs while discouraging others. These often play out in common practices that encapsulate the society’s preferred Self, Other, and Ideology, and discourage alternatives.
  • Cultural and Social Norms: Cultural and social norms are informal understandings that govern individuals’ behavior in society. They act as a primary filter, influencing what types of behaviors, relationships, and ideologies are considered acceptable. When an external influence is at odds with these norms, it often faces resistance or rejection from the society.

In this way, society creates a protective buffer around itself to guard against influences that seek to change the way of life exemplified by the society.

Inverse Perception of External Influences

When one society forcibly exerts influence on another in an attempt to change or subordinate the second society, the recipient society always perceives this influence from a different perspective (relative to the Self, Other and Ideology categorisation) than the source society.

For example, if Society A attempts to forcibly influence Society B from an ideological perspective, then this will be viewed as an attack on the Self and Society of Society B.

We can identify this effect in the discrete areas of Self, Other, and Ideology.

  • Forcible attempts to impose a new type of Self: According to the second society, the Self of the first society is oppressive and grasping. Such a Self cannot be a true, natural form of Self and is rather an artificial form generated by an incorrect Ideology and ways of living (Other). Therefore, forcible attempts to impose a new type of Self are construed as attacks on ideology and societal structure.
  • Forcible attempts to impose a new type of Other: According to the second society, the societal interactions in the first society are unhealthy and unnatural, and so must be the product of incorrect Ideology and personal corruption (Self).
  • Forcible attempts to impose a new type of Ideology: According to the second society, the Ideology of the first society is invalid, therefore this ideology cannot truly appear as ideological to the second society and is instead perceived as a projection of a corrupt Self and of dysfunctional societal interactions (Other).

Since the second society always perceives the source of the influence from the first society as coming from a different area than it emanates from in the source society, the element of the second society that responds to that stimulus is inevitably different to the source element. Therefore, the effect it has on the target society is always in a different area (of Self, Other and Ideology) than in the source.

This means to say, due to the inversion in perception that occurs when force is traded between different societies, the area of Self, Other, or Ideology impacted in Society B is always different from the area of influence intended by Society A.

We can see this effect in The Lord of the Rings.

Sauron and the Fellowship of the Ring

In The Lord of the Rings, Sauron the Dark Lord wants to take over the Free World by using his army of orcs and disaffected men. The Fellowship of the Ring aim to destroy the One Ring of Power, which will destroy Sauron. On the way to destroying the One Ring, the members of the fellowship are tried to their utmost, both physically and emotionally, and in the end, they succeed in their mission.

In this way, the pressure exerted by Sauron on the Fellowship due to his mission to conquer all of Middle Earth (Ideology), has a unifying effect on the Fellowship (Other) and results in their personal growth (Self). Faced with the threat of Mordor’s domination, the Fellowship members develop deeper bonds of mutual reliance, fostering a sense of unity in the face of their common enemy.

Here we see that the forceful application of Sauron’s Ideology (to rule the world) has a positive impact on the Fellowship’s Other and Self.

Sauron, the Dark Lord, encountered the Law of Unintended Consequences when by attempting to conquer the world, he forged the Fellowship of the Ring, a group of hardy and stalwart people. Since the Fellowship of the Ring lived in a different, converse society to Sauron, Sauron’s attempt to gain dominion over them backfired and resulted in his final downfall.

Systemic Errors within the same Society

There are other situations in the Lord of the Rings however, where the Rule of Unintended Consequences seems to apply within the same social system.

  • Boromir’s Attempt to Use the Ring: Boromir, a member of the Fellowship, moved by his desire to protect his people in Gondor (Self), attempts to take the One Ring from Frodo to use it against Sauron.
    However, his actions are perceived by the Fellowship (Other) as a breach of the group’s Ideology, which is to destroy the One Ring. His personal desire to help his own people (Self) leads to the temporary dissolution of the Fellowship (Other), due to his failure to adhere to the group’s Ideology, an outcome opposite to his intention.
  • Denethor’s Stewardship: Denethor, the Steward of Gondor, desires to maintain the strength and unity of his realm (Other). Yet his actions, driven by despair and a misguided use of the palantír (seeing stone), lead him into madness (Self) when Sauron’s Ideology percolates into his mind.
    This culminates in his tragic suicide; he fails in his role as Steward and contributes to the near downfall of Gondor, contrary to his original goal.

These events do not seem to fit into the idea that inversion of societal areas occur specifically when a social boundary has been crossed.

Further analysis shows, however, that in the above scenarios, a system boundary was crossed unwittingly. In other words, a systemic error was made.

  • Boromir’s Attempt to Use the Ring (Self to Ideology): Boromir is by definition unable to use the One Ring, since it represents the power and the system of Sauron.
  • Denethor’s Stewardship (Other to Self): Denethor thought he could use the power of the palantír (seeing stone) to strengthen himself, however, Sauron wrested control of Denethor’s mind through his use of the palantír. Thereby, Denethor was drawn into Sauron’s social system and became “mad” relative to his own.

This illustrates that not only does the Law of Unintended Consequences apply when social-system boundaries are crossed explicitly, but even where constructs of one society occur within another society, then attempting to use those constructs invokes interaction with the other society which results in perverse and unintended consequences.

Summary

We can deduce from the above that the manifestation of the Law of Unintended Consequences signifies a crossing of societal boundaries; this crossing of boundaries may either be deliberate, as in the case of Sauron’s pursuit of dominion, or it may be inadvertent, as in the case of Boromir trying to gain control of the One Ring.

This deduction can be stated as follows.

If the result of a social action is in line with the nature of the action, then both the action and the effect occurred within the same societal context. However, if the result is contrary to the nature of the action, then a societal boundary was crossed between the action and the effect.

Practically speaking this means that if we do encounter the Law of Unintended Consequences, and the outcome of our actions is the opposite of intended, this is because either we have unwittingly crossed a societal boundary, or because we are trying to apply one society’s constructs within another.

We can respond to our surprise in these situations by reassessing the local societal structures and adjusting our responses accordingly.

Personality Specialisation in Problem Solving using ChatGPT

Personality Specialisation in Problem Solving

Different people are good at doing different things. Lumberjacks are good at cutting down trees, and nurses are good at taking care of patients. Conversely, lumberjacks are not good at taking care of patients and nurses are not good at cutting down trees.

Such job specialisation according to a person’s predispositions, also occurs in a white collar work environment, just in a slightly more subtle way. Generally speaking, we can identify three primary character types that are suited to different areas of information work.

  • Analytical predisposition: People who are good at analysing things and drilling down into fine detail. For instance, anyone whose job title includes the word “analyst”.
  • Controlling predisposition: People who are good at controlling situations and don’t like it when processes run out of control. For instance, project managers.
  • Energetic predisposition: People who are good at propelling situations along and getting other people motivated and interested in what they are meant to be doing. For instance, (hopefully) the CEO.

If you read this previous article, you might be thinking that the three character descriptions above (analytical, controlling and energetic) sound suspiciously similar to the three general areas that any system can be divided into (logic, control, energy).

It would seem that this correlation is relatively accurate, at least, and it is specialisation in the various areas of the human psyche (of logic, control and energy) that gives rise to the above mentioned character types (analytical, controlling and energetic).

The Need for Accuracy

Accuracy is the most sought-after commodity in a white collar environment. For example, the most likely outcome of a software development project with ill defined requirements is promotion for the non-participants.

Doing things approximately right in a high-pressure environment just doesn’t work, for the same reason that if the clearance between a piston and a cylinder in a petrol engine is greater than ±0.0005 inches, then the engine will either seize up or run inefficiently. Since modern information systems are comprised a large number of moving parts, each of which needs an accurate input to generate an accurate output, therefore if any of the system elements operates out of its allowed variance, the impact on the system as a whole can be dramatic and, in some cases, catastrophic.

In considering how to get an accurate result, the first observation is that accurate system design and implementation can only possibly be the result of accurate thinking.

So the primary question is not necessarily, “In what way must the system be accurate?” but rather, “How do you get accurate thinking in the first place?”

Extreme Positions and Accuracy

Extreme positions in the information work environment may be very annoying, but they do tend to generate accuracy. Meticulous data management, strict adherence to work processes, and rigorous quality checks, always produce a  better result than turning-a-blind-eye to “small” issues in data quality control, relaxed work process compliance, and a happy-go-lucky attitude towards quality assurance.

Additionally, extreme work-related positions, are often associated with extreme character types.

That is why:

  • An extremely analytical person is far more likely to drill down to the level of detailed required to make sure nothing is just “approximately right”, that someone who does not specialise in being analytical.
  • Somebody who absolutely has to make sure that every single detail is in the right place and under control, is likely to make a brilliant project manager.
  • Someone who has a fiery desire to make sure a venture is successful, is far more likely to sniff out potential pitfalls than someone who is disinterested and uninvolved.

In this way, professionals who set a high bar and produce clean, accurate results, are very often people whose character dovetails with the analytical, controlling or energising aspect of the work they are doing.

AI Chatbots and Personality Specialisation

When asking ChatGPT or Bard to respond to a question, it is possible to specify the “personality type” of the AI “respondent”.

So if I ask ChatGPT, “As Henry the Eighth, what is your opinion of the O2 building?”

I get the following answer:

Ah, the O2 Building, a marvel indeed! As a monarch of the 16th century, such a structure is beyond my wildest imaginations. In my time, the grandest of edifices were cathedrals, castles, and fortresses, each a testament to the strength and piety of the realm.

Yet here we are, discussing an arena that can house many thousands, all within a dome! A dome, I tell you, the likes of which would dwarf even the grandest hall in Hampton Court Palace. This structure, so named the O2, is said to be dedicated to merriment, music, and sport. A novel idea, I daresay, for in my time, we had to construct grandstands each time a tournament was held!

To consider that man could create such a building is a testament to the astounding progress that has been made. Indeed, the O2 Building would be a fitting symbol of majesty and power, a true wonder of the modern world. I wonder what festivities, what grand tournaments, and what feasts one might host within such a magnificent structure.

That is an amusing application of this AI capability. This AI “personality specialisation” can be used to improve the accuracy of an AI response, however.

Since (as discussed above) very controlling people are more likely to get an accurate handle on things, and very analytical people are more likely to drill down to the required level of detail, and very energetic people are more likely to intuit what could possibly derail a venture, asking an AI chatbot to respond as on of these personality types, can be used to enhance the quality of the chatbot response.

Drawing on the Experience of Industry Leaders

In this previous post, I illustrated how ChatGPT can break down a generally stated web-design problem into discrete components of logic, control and motivation.

Based on the above theory, we can do the same thing again, but this time specify personalities who are well-suited to respond to each discrete problem component. This provides a richer result.

The following question was posed to ChatGPT.

1.3 Background

Solar Based Energy, Inc. (SBE) sells state-of-the-art alternative energy systems utilizing wind and solar power. SBE customers include both individuals and businesses interested in incorporating wind or solar energy sources into either new or existing construction. SBE has identified two trends that they believe will cause explosive growth in the demand for their products.

  • The first is the continuing energy crisis in the western United States.
  • The second is the maturation of fuel cell technology which provides a feasible system for storing excess power generation for later use.

SBE sells state-of-the-art alternative energy systems utilizing wind and solar power. SBE customers include both individuals and businesses interested in incorporating wind or solar energy sources into either new or existing construction. SBE has identified several trends that they believe will cause explosive growth in the demand for their products. They include the growing consumer unease with deregulated energy markets, the potential for disruptions to energy imports, and the maturation of fuel cell technology which provides a feasible system for storing excess power generation for later use.

(plus the rest of the problem statement, quoted in the previous post)

  • As Jeff Bezos, describe the maximum business benefit that could be accrued from the new website.

  • As Elon Musk, describe the business rules that should be applied to the new website.

  • As Donald D. Knuth, describe what error handling and exception management should be applied to the new website.

ChatGPT responded as follows.

As Jeff Bezos:

The development of a new website will leverage digital technology to streamline operations and maximize customer reach for SBE. Firstly, by amalgamating the two existing websites into a single platform, we can offer a comprehensive experience to both existing and prospective customers. This could lead to increased customer engagement and potentially boost sales, as customers would now have direct access to product information and ordering.

Moreover, consolidating the two Oracle databases into one will help to maintain data consistency, reduce redundancy, and ultimately lead to better decision-making based on accurate data. Also, by including a language translation feature, we can cater to a global audience, further expanding our market and brand reach. Overall, these improvements could lead to an increase in sales, customer satisfaction, and operational efficiency, resulting in higher profits and competitive advantage in the long run.

As Elon Musk:

Implementing effective business rules for the new SBE website would create a more structured, efficient, and user-friendly environment.

  • First, there should be business rules to ensure accurate, consistent, and up-to-date product information. This could be automated updates or periodic checks by the product owners.
  • Secondly, access control rules should be applied to ensure only authorized personnel can modify product information or process orders.
  • The ordering process itself should follow a set of business rules to guide the user seamlessly through selecting a product to final purchase. This could include business rules around the shopping cart functionality, checkout, and payment procedures.
  • Additionally, consider business rules to manage customer interactions – such as handling inquiries, complaints, or reviews. These business rules should aim to provide a responsive and supportive customer service experience.
  • Lastly, remember to include business rules to comply with legal and regulatory requirements, particularly in relation to data privacy and security.

As Donald D. Knuth:

Error handling and exception management are crucial in ensuring the reliability and robustness of any system.

For user input, validation should be done at the client-side to catch and correct errors early. This can range from simple checks like verifying that required fields are filled, to more complex validations like ensuring entered data is in the correct format.

When errors occur, the system should catch them and, when possible, recover gracefully. This could mean rolling back transactions to ensure data integrity or re-trying failed operations. For critical errors, the system should log detailed error information and then alert the appropriate personnel.

To ensure proper exception management, implement a centralized error handling system that provides a unified way to handle and log exceptions. This can greatly simplify the process of diagnosing and correcting issues when they occur.

Lastly, always plan for worst-case scenarios. Implement backup and restore functionality to protect against data loss, and design the system to be resilient even in the face of unexpected failures.

Remember that users should be shielded from the complexity of the system. Any errors or exceptions they encounter should be communicated with clear and user-friendly messages that guide them on what to do next.

These responses compare favourably and are far more accurate and detailed than the answers than the vanilla-flavoured responses that ChatGPT gives if asked the same questions without specifying the responder personalities.

Conclusion

When asking ChatGPT for advice or analysis, specify the respondent persona as the best person you can think of to answer the question.

This technique can be effectively applied using a systematic problem decomposition method, allowing different “people” to address different aspects of the question.

Meaningful opinions and Transactional Analysis

Meaningful opinions and Transactional Analysis

Most arguments can be rephrased along the following lines.

Person A: It’s like this.

Person B: No, it’s like this.

Person A: I know for an absolute fact that I’m right!

Person B: Don’t be silly, that’s just your opinion. In reality I am correct.

It is often impossible to prove objectively if Person A or Person B is correct, because there is insufficient information available to prove the case one way or another. Subsequently we may use consistency as a measure of opinion-validity. This means to say, if someone is prepared to live consistently with their stated opinion, then we say their opinion is valid, because they are prepared to stand by it. However, if someone is not prepared to live consistently with their stated opinion, then we say their opinion is artificial and casuistic.

In other words, if an opinion expresses a person’s innermost convictions, then we see that as a real opinion. On the other hand, if an opinion is stated casually and conveniently, but is not something the speaker is prepared to live by, we discount this opinion as empty talk.

Using Transactional Analysis terminology, it is possible to express this qualitative assessment in a quantitative manner.

Second order psychoanalysis

The high level psychoanalytic model suggested by Transactional Analysis is very simple and consists of three ego states: Parent, Adult and Child (see here). Human behaviour is far more complex than this simple model suggests, however.

One way in which Transactional Analysis theory refines the three ego-state model is by introducing second-order ego-states (or, sub ego-states). To wit, just as the whole psyche is understood to consist of three ego-states, so too each ego-state is understood to consist of a further three sub ego-states. (Transactional Analysis theory further suggests that each sub ego-state can be further subdivided into sub sub ego-states, and so on, to a very low level of granularity.)

This can be diagrammatically represented as follows.

Practically speaking, this means that each ego state (or, state of mind) has its own

  • Controls: Sub-Parent
  • Centre of reasoning: Sub-Adult
  • Emotions: Sub-Child

In this way, each ego state (or, state of mind) has its own “life” and can function independently of the entire psyche. It is worthwhile noting that this is one of the most remarkable and significant suggestions made by Transactional Analysis theory.

An important ramification of this theory is that we understand that if someone hears voices in their head arguing with each other, then that person has a mental illness. According to Transactional Analysis it is perfectly normal for a person to experience inner dispute, since different ego-states may entertain different opinions. Most normal people do not “hear” these “voices” however, as the discussion is either peacefully internally resolved (by the Adult) or swept under the carpet by a compensatory mechanism.

Portrait of a second order ego-state

The following images demonstrate identification of the Parent, Adult and Child sub ego-states within an actual child. These sub ego-states, which represent a child’s initial response to life, are initially formed in childhood, but persist into adulthood.

Parent in the Child
A child displays parental behaviour, but in a childlike manner.

Adult in the Child
A child displays thoughtfulness, yet at the same time remains a child.

Child in the Child
The child’s pristine wonder and emotion.

Alternatively, we can identify Parent, Adult and Child sub ego-states within the Parent.

Adult in the Parent
The Adult in the Parent occurs when a parent assists their child by being rational.

Child in the Parent
The Child in the Parent occurs when a parent supports their child in an emotional manner.

Parent in the Parent
The Parent in the Parent occurs when a parent seeks to modify their child’s behaviour by asserting their parental rights.

A balanced opinion

Each ego-state (or, state of mind) has its own faculty of thought (or, point of view) and will tend to assess a particular situation in its own idiosyncratic manner.

  • The Child ego-state will appraise a situation from the perspective of a child.
  • The Parent ego-state will appraise a situation from the perspective of a parent.
  • The Adult ego-state will appraise a situation impassively.

How then does the mind come to a definite conclusion concerning what is happening and what action to take (if any)?

Transactional Analysis suggests that in order to arrive at a balanced response, the Adult should act as the arbitrator between all thoughts and feelings in the psyche. In other words, the person should reflect, “I know that I can feel about this situation in various different ways, I believe the correct response is to balance these different feelings in the following manner.”

We can diagrammatically represent this mode of thinking as follows.

Ideal balanced response

When a person expresses a balanced opinion, all ego states (frames of mind) are in agreement that this opinion represents their point-of-view. Thus the opinion is a “real” opinion, as it is an expression of the totality of the person and is something that the person would be prepared to live by.

A one-sided view

It is possible that instead of using the Adult as an inner mediator, a person could choose to respond to a particular situation from only one ego state, to the exclusion of all others. When someone responds to a situation from only one ego-state (frame of mind), then we say that this opinion is trivial and off-hand. Because the opinion is just something the person “can say”, rather than something that reflects everything the person “could say”, it is a throw-away comment.

When a person responds from only one ego-state then we say they are being unreal. For example, we may say:

  • Child-centric opinion: He’s only saying that because he wants to have a good time.
  • Parent-centric opinion: He’s only saying that because he’s angry.
  • Adult-centric opinion: He’s only saying that because he hasn’t thought about who his decision will affect.

An opinion that is stated from only one internal point-of-view is hollow and insincere, however compelling it is from that point of view and however forcefully it may be stated.

In summary

We can differentiate between a sincere opinion and a throw-away comment by assessing whether the person who stated that opinion would be prepared to stand by their principles even if this would cause them loss.

In Transactional Analysis terms, this idea can be formulated as follows:

If an opinion stated by a person represents a consensus of the opinions of all ego-states, then this is a real opinion that is stated by the wholeness of that person. However, if an opinion is only representative of one aspect of that individual’s personality, then this is a throw-away comment that other facets of that person will override, when convenient.

Exercise

Go through the following thought-drill.

  • When was the last time you expressed a strong opinion?
  • Would you live by that principle, even if this caused you significant loss?
  • Can you demonstrate to yourself how you have stood firm by this principle?
  • If not, which particular frame of mind were you in when you stated the opinion?

Understanding why we express opinions can help us integrate our thoughts and live a fuller and more wholesome life.

A short introduction to Transactional Analysis

A short introduction to Transactional Analysis

Psychoanalytic theory divides the psyche into various different functional areas, in order to try to identify and treat discrete areas of pathology. On the whole, psychoanalysis has fallen out of favour in the treatment of emotional and psychiatric disorders. This is due to the tendency of psychologists trained in psychoanalytic techniques to treat their patients as collections of discrete psychological elements, and not as a whole. Psychoanalytic theory is hard to ignore, however, as it paints a fairly accurate, if simplistic, picture of the human condition.

A popular formulation of the psychodynamic model was developed by Canadian psychiatrist, Eric Berne (May 10, 1910 – July 15, 1970). Berne formulated the following high-level three-part model of the mind.

  • Child: The Child ego-state contains childlike emotions such as love, happiness and anger.
  • Parent: The Parent ego-state contains the human value system, which is initially experienced as behavioural controls that parents instill in their children.
  • Adult: The Adult ego-state is the seat of logical processing. The Adult ego-state is so-called because adults are typically more capable of reaching rational conclusions and making informed decisions than children.

Berne further identifies two discrete states of the Parent and Child ego states.

  • Benevolent Parent / Critical Parent: The Parent ego state may behave benevolently or critically. The “Benevolent Parent” naturally occurs when a parent displays nurturing and constructive behaviour towards their child. The “Critical Parent” naturally occurs when a parent criticises their child (with various degrees of intensity).
  • Free Child / Adapted Child: The Child ego state may be happy when doing what it wants, or sad, when stultified by the parent. The “Free Child” describes a state in which the Child feels carefree and can “do what it likes”. The “Adapted Child”, on the other hand, occurs when the Child is forced to conform to a particular mode of behaviour via parental constraints and threats.

Altogether, the above schema represents a high-level modularisation that can be successfully used to categorise, analyse and assuage behavioural and emotional conditions.

Critical Parent

 

Benevolent Parent

 

 

Adult

 

Free Child

 

Adapted Child

Learned patterns of behaviour

Although the Free Child, Adapted Child, Benevolent Parent and Critical Parent ego-states are experienced first and foremost during the formative childhood years, the patterns of behaviour associated with these ego states continue into adulthood.

For example, when an angry manager berates an employee, Transactional Analysis understands that the manager is in the (Critical) Parent ego-state and the employee is in the Adapted Child ego-state. Alternatively, when a pleased manager compliments an employee, the manager may be in the Benevolent Parent ego-state and the employee in the Free Child ego-state.

Thus the dramas of early childhood continue to take form and develop throughout adult life.

Critical Parent and Adapted Child in the workplace

 

Benevolent Parent and Free Child in the workplace

 

The ability to move between ego states

According to Transactional Analysis, an emotionally healthy person consciously moves (or, cathects) into the appropriate ego state, as befits the occasion.

For example, when going out to dinner with their partner, Person X will move into the Child ego state. When telling their child that it is dangerous to cross the road without looking, Person X will move into the Parent ego state. And when considering which house to buy, Person X will move into the Adult ego state. In this way, the compartmentalisation of the psyche into specialised areas allows Person X to engage the specialised areas of their mind that are most suited to the task at hand.

Ideally, the Adult ego-state is the arbiter that decides which ego-state the person should move into. For example, the Adult may decide that:

  • When going out with my partner, move into the Child.
  • When berating my child, move into the Parent.
  • When deciding which house to buy, move into the Adult.
The cycle of cathexis

In other words, it is the ability to move into the appropriate frame of mind that makes a person authentic, responsive and effective.

Getting stuck in an ego state

Although ideally people should be free to move into whichever ego state is appropriate to the circumstance, it is possible for a person to get “stuck” in a particular ego state. This commonly occurs where job requirements require people to spend more time in one particular ego state.

For example:

  • A clown is paid to spend time in the Child ego-state so that they can be “funny”. Thus a professional clown may get “stuck” in the Child ego-state and be unable to be serious on serious occasions.
  • An accountant is paid to spend time in the Adult ego state so that they can be methodical. Thus an straight-faced accountant may be unable to “let their hair down” and have fun, as the situation demands.
  • A lieutenant is paid to spend time in the Parent ego-state so they can effectively manage their platoon in stressful situations. Thus a tough lieutenant may be unable to objectively appraise and take into account other people’s feelings, in their civilian life.

Getting stuck in an ego state is called a “constant ego state” condition. In other words, the clown may be Constant Child, the accountant may be Constant Adult and the lieutenant may be Constant Parent.

In summary

Our ability to respond appropriately in different occasions depends on the ability to “cathect” into the appropriate state-of-mind, or ego state, that is suited for that occasion.

At a funeral, we would expect to be in a serious state of mind (the Parent). In a business meeting, we would expect to be predominantly in a logical frame of mind (the Adult). And at a funfair, we would expect to be in a “fun” state of mind (the Child). If we are unable to move into the required ego state (state-of-mind), we may find ourselves unable to partake of life in the full.

A mental exercise

Spend 5 minutes trying to see if you can move yourself at will between the Parent, Adult and Child ego-states.

  • Child: Imagine yourself at a funfair and feeling happy.
  • Adult: Then imagine yourself deliberating a difficult problem in a business meeting.
  • Parent: Finally, imagine speaking at a significant ceremony, and conveying a meaningful message to the audience.

Were you able to move into the appropriate ego-state at will?

If not, try to discover what was holding you back, and think through the inhibitions that prevented you from being your best on the occasion.

 

Critique of pure love

Critique of pure love

The post-modern striving to create conscientious and global citizens has resulted in a generation that is unsure of its own identity. Stripped of national pride, parochial values and family ties, modern man struggles to identify a purpose in life that is unique to himself, and that justifies his value as a unique individual.

Nature abhors a vacuum, however, and so a plethora of mind-numbingly virtuous causes has risen from the ashes of conservative values. The plight of the newly-declared misunderstood and underrated, has galvanised millions out of their hedonistic stupor and poster superhero infatuation. Thus the sins of the arrogant ages have garishly rematerialised to arouse the indignation of all decent thinking people.

And so we are left undecided. Would it be better to live in an age of chivalry, classical culture and spurious mores? Or is it better to embrace slavish freedom and autocratic salvation?

 

One love

Probably the most undiscussed assumption of the modern zeitgeist, is the belief that all love is one. Not only did the hippies promulgate the ideal of unfettered love, they also promulgated the idea that love is indivisible and universal. Mankind is united under this sublime spirit of goodness, all expressions of which are one. Because there is no difference between the electric love of an open-air rock concert and the sublime devotion of a sanctuary, love can serve as the universal solvent of man’s differences.

It is not altogether clear if this assumption is correct, however. Love is the power to give of the self, and the self is hard-earned and different for everyone. That is why the love that comes after a long period of striving and accomplishment, is an altogether deeper and sweeter love than the artless love of whimsy and desire. That is also why every culture has its own unique way of displaying love, and why every person within each culture has their own unique way of loving, each according to their inner-self and persona.

So instead of assuming only one love, it would seem more likely that there are instead infinite loves. One nation’s love is not the same as another’s, one man’s love is not the same as another’s, and the love of each day with its particular challenges, is not the same as the love of yesterday or tomorrow.

 

Local love

The interaction and fusing of two souls that we call intimacy, comes at the intersection of the distinct and unique loves that each has to give the other. The more different the loves, and the greater the distance from which the souls communicate, the greater the beauty and grace each bestows the other. In this way, the greatest oneness is born of the greatest separateness. Additionally, when strong opposites attract, the forces of attraction are localised between the attracted. However when weak opposites attract, the forces of attraction spread out and are diffused among the surroundings.

This is why the more we buy into the notion that all love is one, the weaker the bonds of love become. Relationships become increasingly ephemeral, because there is no difference who the lover is and who the beloved. Lovers become desperate for expensive shared experiences, since these experiences comprise the surrounding world’s ratification of their romance. And so the cottar’s gentle evening walk with his wife has been snuffed out by the psychedelic overture of modern loving.

Despite the hippies’ promise of love for all, we live in a world where true, enduring love has become increasingly rare, so that the banality of ubiquitous love has resulted in no love at all.

 

In conclusion

To find true, sincere love we must find character, and to find character we must find challenge. Once upon a time, challenge was provided by a parochial system. In order to profess to love, one had to first meet the challenges demanded from those who aspired to such an elevated calling.

For good or for bad, these prerequisites have gone the way of yesterday’s newspaper, and so we have to challenge ourselves to create our own trials. Perhaps it is not obvious that we do not need to refine our characters, force ourselves to live for others and work hard to find the meaningfulness in every fleeting moment and chance encounter.

There is no easy way to earn true selfhood. Maybe the most we can hope for is that if we are true to ourselves, we can be true to others, and others can be true to us. But being true requires a lifetime commitment of grit and hard work.